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Question about Relationships before Marriage I went to confessional for the first time today, and the Priest told me that it was sinful for me and my girlfriend to live together before marriage. Our relationship isn't sexual anymore, and neither of us want to split up and live in separate places, nor do we even have the money to do that. He told me to read the Catechism of the catholic to figure out what i should do, but I couldn't find anything helpfull. Can someone give me advice on what to do in this situation and give me some scripture on it? I want to serve God and please him so I will do whatever that takes.

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Old timers call it "shacking up" cus they assume your having sex. It's not a sin to live in the same house as someone you love. Though you are probably going to be hard pressed to not have sex if you do long for each other and live together. __________________ Don't insist on your problem being as big as your flesh likes to think it is. The victory has been won, the way out has already been made. Me* To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. "A life touched by God always ends up touching others. If you are annoying them, that is probably just your pride." Mark Mobley His goodness is beyond words, we never deserved him To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Originally Posted by xAmadeusx I went to confessional for the first time today, and the Priest told me that it was sinful for me and my girlfriend to live together before marriage. Our relationship isn't sexual anymore, and neither of us want to split up and live in separate places, nor do we even have the money to do that. He told me to read the Catechism of the catholic to figure out what i should do, but I couldn't find anything helpfull. Can someone give me advice on what to do in this situation and give me some scripture on it? I want to serve God and please him so I will do whatever that takes. I think you should go by what your heart says. I can understand sleeping with the girl must make you feel really wrong, shameful, and guilty... so listen to that. You shouldn't need scripture to tell you what your conscience must be screaming.. __________________ 'Be without worry, be without fear, believe your dreams, and hold back all doubt that assail them' -- John Casey, d 1911

Originally Posted by xAmadeusx Nope, I never felt that there was anything wrong with it until today. I'm not sure what you mean by sleeping with the girl, as in sleeping together at night or intercourse? I don't see anything wrong with the former. We plan on get married and were not having sex... I don't feel like it is wrong, but I'm somewhat of a "new christian" you could say, so I don't really know what is right or expected. But I will pray. I think it is good to sleep with her, but I meant having sex. I mean, don't have sex with her, but you can sleep in the same bed. I did the same thing with my ex, it helps build up self-control. Make sure she is the one in control and agrees with this. (Because women hold the keys to that.) It is important to properly value each other this way, as well. I am not sure what the Catholics do for sin, hail marys or something? I would stick to your chosen religion, and follow every instruction they give you, because they sit in the seat of Jesus. I am not saying this instruction is from the Lord, I do not know any bible verse condemning sex before marriage, this is just my own opinion. __________________ 'Be without worry, be without fear, believe your dreams, and hold back all doubt that assail them' -- John Casey, d 1911

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I think it is good to sleep with her, but I meant having sex. I mean, don't have sex with her, but you can sleep in the same bed. I did the same thing with my ex, it helps build up self-control. I know in some cases people will sleep together (non sexually) if they can't afford to be somewhere else. Example is my fiance when she comes here can't afford a hotel, so she will stay with us. She will have my bedroom and I will sleep in the basement. We pretty much will be living together for a few months (with my parents of course). What you said above was my line when I met someone years ago. Because until I was 27 I had lots of self control when it came to avoiding sex. But when this girl was in my room on the third night I simply leaned over to kiss her goodnight. I accidently rested my hand on her chest. From there she smiled and gave me this look, next thing I know stuff was going on. It moved so fast. >.< I'll never make that mistake again. And both me and my fiance agree on that since we both made those mistakes with past relationships.. We will never be alone in the same room where temptation is. More so at night. So all in all I don't think its a great idea to sleep next to each other. One way or another you may be sinning. Just watching he get into bed you may be thinking lustful thoughts. Were human and given enough time and opportunity we will lose self control on things.

Originally Posted by xfreakazoidx I know in some cases people will sleep together (non sexually) if they can't afford to be somewhere else. Example is my fiance when she comes here can't afford a hotel, so she will stay with us. She will have my bedroom and I will sleep in the basement. We pretty much will be living together for a few months (with my parents of course). What you said above was my line when I met someone years ago. Because until I was 27 I had lots of self control when it came to avoiding sex. But when this girl was in my room on the third night I simply leaned over to kiss her goodnight. I accidently rested my hand on her chest. From there she smiled and gave me this look, next thing I know stuff was going on. It moved so fast. >.< I'll never make that mistake again. And both me and my fiance agree on that since we both made those mistakes with past relationships.. We will never be alone in the same room where temptation is. More so at night. So all in all I don't think its a great idea to sleep next to each other. One way or another you may be sinning. Just watching he get into bed you may be thinking lustful thoughts. Were human and given enough time and opportunity we will lose self control on things. Hrm, yeah, good point... have had that problem in the past, as well. __________________ 'Be without worry, be without fear, believe your dreams, and hold back all doubt that assail them' -- John Casey, d 1911

Originally Posted by xAmadeusx I went to confessional for the first time today, and the Priest told me that it was sinful for me and my girlfriend to live together before marriage. Our relationship isn't sexual anymore, and neither of us want to split up and live in separate places, nor do we even have the money to do that. He told me to read the Catechism of the catholic to figure out what i should do, but I couldn't find anything helpfull. Can someone give me advice on what to do in this situation and give me some scripture on it? I want to serve God and please him so I will do whatever that takes. ---- According to the word of GOD, one ought not have any sort of physical intimacy with one?s significant other or any other before marriage. ?Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.? - Heb 13:4 The problem with living together and thus being in such close quarters with one another is the temptation that exists to engage each other intimately. ? ?Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.? ? 1 Cor 7:1 1st, pray incessantly about it, asking The Lord GOD for wisdom ? ?In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.? - Pro_3:6 You could, if you?re both serious and ready, get married, but pray about this as well, because there is to be no divorce for any reason. May the Lord GOD lead, guide, strengthen and bless you.

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